A coworker of mine shared a good philosophy about "days". Birthday, mothers day, whatever... in his family the rule is that your day is your day, do what you want. But nobody else is under any obligation to make your day magical. They don't do material gifts or breakfast in bed, just call it a net gain that everyone gets out of doing work on the various holidays.
I like this idea. I'm going with it. Marc and I don't take gift-giving that seriously, if we get a great idea for what to get the other person for christmas or a birthday we do it, if there's no obvious idea we don't. Last Christmas I got him earrings but the year before that I don't think I did anything.
Anyway for my birthday - Marc and Josie were out of town, took a trip to Arizona, so I was vacationing from work to watch Olive. We went to Topeka for a couple days so I could see my sister and have a sister weekend. We had craft projects! Made a stuffed animal bin for my niece's playroom that was cute, I helped her pack up for a trip, the girls played really nicely together, we went to the public library and just relaxed a lot. They took me out to lunch at the Wheel Barrel, a grilled cheese restaurant in north topeka where the little kids could play at this playhouse next to our table where we enjoyed adult conversation. Win. I left a good yelp review.