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in my hometown...

You have to pick one option. mwahahahah.

If I were to spend my entire life living in Wichita Kansas it'd be...

TRAGIC. You've got to get out of there spacefem! Escape!
Awesome. Bloom where you're planted. You like it, you've got friends, go visit those other places and then come back home.

Just to recap... I've lived in wichita for almost 14 years now.

Things I like:
- Low cost of living
- Close to family
- Friendly people
- Zero pressure to be a celebrity in designer clothes driving BMW
- 10 minute workday commute is normal
- Quaint hometown civic pride - people are trying to give us a vibrant arts and culture scene and it's wonderful

Things I don't like:
- It's Wichita, Kansas
- Politics
- Crap for public transportation
- Far from ALL tourist destinations
- Fear that my kids are going to realize this is the center of hell and bail out of here faster than I can say "but we raised you..."
- Guilt that my five year old has never seen the ocean


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Feb. 12th, 2016 04:57 pm (UTC)
At first I was like "Neither. It isn't awesome or tragic. I could see arguments either way..." But then I picked "Awesome" because the family thing is gold. Gold! Trust me, as someone who lives far from family which is truly tragic, in so many ways, over and over.

Take your kids to see the ocean though :)
Feb. 12th, 2016 05:03 pm (UTC)
This! I wouldn't pick Wichita for myself, because well, I have my "family" here - well, it's still a work in progress. But yes, being close to family - priceless!!

And go to a beach on your next vacation! :)
Feb. 13th, 2016 03:40 am (UTC)
Yep, I was thinking "time for a beach trip."

Granded my two haven't seen the ocean yet either. Oldest was there, but he was three months old and slept through it so I don't think it counts.

Close to family is also great and living in one place isn't bad so long as you get out and see the world once in a while!
Feb. 12th, 2016 05:25 pm (UTC)
I have nothing against Wichita. But I think it's good to at least travel a little. Living somewhere very different for a while can be beneficial but I realize it's not possible for everyone.
Feb. 12th, 2016 05:36 pm (UTC)
I have moved all over and let me tell you, with two small children I wish my parents lived closer! We basically never get to go out, ever.
Feb. 12th, 2016 06:14 pm (UTC)
We too... We have had 2 or 3 hours of free babysitting in an entire year if we're lucky! Just wanted to commiserate...
Feb. 12th, 2016 08:25 pm (UTC)
Well I should clarify... they live three hours away. So we don't have the independence of going to the movies by ourselves at the drop of a hat that some of my real "grandparents in town" friends have.

But at least we see each other every 4-6 weeks and for EVERY holiday and it's not a plane ticket to get home!
Feb. 12th, 2016 06:15 pm (UTC)
As a life-long midwesterner, I don't mind so much still being in Kansas (although I'm in Lawrence, so it's a little different) but I really really don't want to die here. I don't even want to retire here. Could you perhaps move elsewhere in your golden years? Closer to where ever your kids wind up?
Feb. 12th, 2016 06:35 pm (UTC)
Never been to Kansas but it appears (going by news reports) to be going straight into the ground as directed by your governor.

However, adults can choose to live wherever they like, so if you want out, go for it.
Feb. 12th, 2016 07:08 pm (UTC)
I do like the last positive point. It may not be great but at least people are trying to make it better.
Feb. 12th, 2016 09:43 pm (UTC)
I just stumbled upon this post, but I have been in the same situation. I uprooted my children twice now. From Seattle(area) to small town Wyoming and now to Oklahoma City. In the end, I'm glad my kids have gotten to experience the best of both worlds, but we have no roots. There's something to be said for driving through a town and sharing the memories you've made with your children.
Feb. 12th, 2016 10:52 pm (UTC)
At first I read this with "I" referring to ME rather than to YOU, and was going to click tragic, but then realized what you were asking.

Finding a place where you are happy and staying there is amazing. I'm looking forward to never ever moving again from where we are now, and look forward to raising Gwen in one place for all her childhood.

There's always travel. :)
Feb. 12th, 2016 11:10 pm (UTC)
I only picked tragic so you'll move here. ;)

But in reality I think you've got things pretty good. You can go see things, like the ocean. And so what if your kids move away? That's gonna happen no matter where you live. Having family close is nice.
Feb. 13th, 2016 01:58 am (UTC)
"Guilt that my five year old has never seen the ocean"

You can easily fix this by taking another trip to my area. I live right by the ocean, and we technically have 4 bedrooms now, with our home renovations. And we only occupy two of the bedrooms. Ahem.
Feb. 13th, 2016 02:12 am (UTC)
I have moved a lot and I moved as a child a fair amount, at the time it was tragic, but now I wouldn't change it for the world. I got to see and experience so much stuff, I am glad my parents took the plunge. You can always visit family or they can visit you, you make new experiences and memories, and I still have friends all over the world from when I was 8 years old, and I am now 45!
Feb. 13th, 2016 02:46 am (UTC)
Well, a couple hours in a 182 would solve the kids-never-seen-the-ocean problem...
Feb. 14th, 2016 04:53 am (UTC)
I never saw an ocean until I was 20, and I guess I turned out ok. :) But I'm sure I would have enjoyed it as a kid.
Feb. 15th, 2016 10:58 am (UTC)
For me that'd be tragic, but then I'm from England, and don't really want to leave here... sounds great for you though.

Although for me "close to family" is not a plus point, my current location is about an hour from my parents' place, which is both "not actually close" IMO and also FAR TOO CLOSE as it allows them to show up with little notice. I don't really like my family.
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