Preschool! the social pressures, you wouldn't believe it. She's been asking about this since she was three and saw other girls in her class with earrings.
I asked her, "Do you want earrings just because your friend sophia has them?" and she said yes. hmmm. too bad about the conformity, but points for honesty!
I had friends who had their daughters ears pierced as a baby which I was totally against. For one, a lot of them had their ears pierced so that people will "know she's a girl" and that's an unfortunate reason, why is it so important for people to know that an infant is a girl? How about we just let them be little people as long as we can, before society's tight gender boxes get around them?
Second, I am against the idea that any person can decide that any other person should get a cosmetic body modification. Leave kids the way God made them. I thought it was totally weird when people asked if I'd get a strawberry mark on top of Josie's head removed... I was told it'd probably fade away anyway, or get covered by hair. Why accept the risk of a medical procedure? And if she'd been a boy, she would not have been circumcised.
I was not going to get Josie's ear pierced unless she herself asked me for it.
Then she did.
So do I just give in? Or choose some other arbitrary age, I think my mom said I had to be 12, I don't know how she came up with that.
I think Josie is old enough that she'll take care of them herself a little bit, keep them clean, turn the posts, with a little help from us.
But then she'll be wearing earrings, forever. A rambunctious little kid on the playground, with earrings? does that sound bad?
I'm tempted to keep coming up with reasons to wait.