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Backstory: Last year livejournal started to feel kinda dead to me. I was sad about that, since so much of my adult life is on here, but what can you do. I joined some other new websites and social networks, and noticed that everyone was really going after friends and talking about how to network and get noticed. And it made me think, why not just do that at livejournal? Is livejournal dead... or just my friends page? And who controls my friends page? Oh hell... me.

Well good news, I found out with a little effort, this place is fantastic! Not dead at all, there are all kinds of great people here, and it's reminding me why I always loved livejournal... I'm writing about my life, reading about other people's lives, I get comments that are more than just "like", there's advice and bonding and debate and everything fantastic.

So here's what I did.

1) Join friending communities - I started friendquest2015 myself, but then found add_me which is also very active with new people looking for friends. There's a whole related ecosystem of add me related communities too.

2) Join active communities - Surf down the top communities to see if anything catches your eye. Unjoin the old dead ones you're in, unless they really mean a lot to you.

3) Pay attention to the livejournal homepage. Find that "hide community" button on the right side of posts to filter out communities you're not interested in seeing there... we all have different interests, don't let anything you're not interested in flood your homepage.

4) Liberally check out your "friends of friends" page. You've got a connection with these people, if you comment and say how you found them, they might be open to getting a new friend.

5) I like the idea of surfing interests (ie, http://www.livejournal.com/interests.bml?int=books) but apparently not everyone is so open to be friended based on interests, as that's how I got the now infamous please unfriend me request. So I'm sure it works great for some interests, just be sure to leave people comments.

6) Checking the friends pages of your favorite communities is a good way to find common interests. Just add "/friends" to the end of any community URL to find new public posts by members - even if the community itself is no longer updated.

7) Pay attention to who else is leaving comments in your friends journals, maybe they aren't that active in their own journals so they might not contribute a ton to your friends page but hey, commenters!

8) Browse the top journals, starting at not page 1. The page 1 people are too busy for you.

9) Post public entries! I mean sure, when I'm posting about work or other real people stuff I'll occasionally f-lock it. But if I'm writing about how I hate bananas or whatever I think that can be public. And if you do have a "comment here to be friended" post, refresh it to show you're alive. If it was posted in 2009 you look dead.

10) And finally, occasionally talk about how you're open to friends, that way if anyone does happen by your journal they'll feel encouraged. That "when in doubt, friend!" feeling we all love. Talk about why you love livejournal. Be positive. Tell people you are here to stay. Get your own friends to put some energy into it. Talk about why facebook sucks ('cause it does, you know that right?). Spread the love!

I'm going to lean back a bit on these efforts now and get to know the people who've joined my list, but I'm still welcoming anyone who finds me, and anyone who's got the same philosophy I have going on about livejournal friending. Do we need to be "the hottest" network with millions of new members every month? Nah. I need like four comments on an entry to be happy. If I get more, bonus, but it's not about the numbers here, we're past that. One more reason to stick with livejournal.

Comments

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spikesgirl58
Mar. 26th, 2015 06:52 pm (UTC)
I'm #42 of the top posters?!? How cool (and surprising) is that. I don't feel as if I post a lot at all.

This is very helpful and I wonder if it might help to repost this over on Add...2015. Just to let folks know what their options are.

And I actually did go through my community list and dropped several that are either dead or very nearly so. It's odd how a community can be so active and then stop all of the sudden.
ironphoenix
Mar. 26th, 2015 06:55 pm (UTC)
ironphoenix likes this.
deloric
Mar. 26th, 2015 07:00 pm (UTC)
great post.
I did not know #3 - thank you!!!
ant_fugue
Mar. 26th, 2015 07:10 pm (UTC)
I love reading your entries. Even though I have zero interest in management at this time, I enjoy reading your professional reflections. Since I am a nurse, I sadly do not get to post my own. I would otherwise cherish the opportunity to share.

Seriously, sometime I think there needs to exist some kind of a closed Medical Blog space where folks from the medical profession get to write stuff. I think it would be good for us.

I feel a little sad that I post in the language that you don't read (RUssian); I would have enjoyed reading your comments and gaining your perspective on some of my posts.

Tell you what, there is a power point presentation I put together to document the year 2014, just because I am truly hoping it will be the most intense year of my life. My xmas letter to our team also got published onto a blog that a Hopkins physician keeps. Please hide that comment after you see it, ok?

Edited at 2015-03-26 07:14 pm (UTC)
siduri
Mar. 26th, 2015 07:17 pm (UTC)
This is really helpful,thanks for doing this post!
starcrossed
Mar. 26th, 2015 08:02 pm (UTC)
thanks for the add me search idea. I have joined a few comms based on that :)
ironphoenix
Mar. 26th, 2015 08:45 pm (UTC)
Commenting on other people's posts works well too... be part of the conversation, and other people may find you interesting enough to friend!
spacefem
Mar. 26th, 2015 09:03 pm (UTC)
Oh definitely meant to mention that! Good point!
just_demented
Mar. 26th, 2015 10:13 pm (UTC)
I'm always up for new friends!! All peeps gotta do let me know how they found me!

The add me communities are pretty good but honestly, I find the best people that are friends of friends!
spacefem
Mar. 27th, 2015 01:00 am (UTC)
I already have no idea how I found you :)
just_demented
Mar. 27th, 2015 03:01 am (UTC)
I "think" I found you...in an add_me community....I think. I've been wrong before though....i DO remember finding out you were in Kansas prompted me to add you though!
lavenderspark
Mar. 26th, 2015 10:16 pm (UTC)
Things seem to cycle for me. When I first started LJ, it was full of all people I knew in real life. They slowly dropped off as Facebook started. Now I only have ONE friend from the original group and she doesn't really post much.

I started joining communities to fill the gap and met a few people that way, but lately it's been quiet again as they get busy with things offline.

I have no social life outside of the internet any more, so finding your community was very helpful to me.

I have since changed my journal to be more welcoming. I try to post public entries now as well as my friends only posts. I've also been trying to post more fun things and not just post to vent or complain. That still happens obviously, but I'm trying to make it more even.
spacefem
Mar. 27th, 2015 12:59 am (UTC)
you know what's funny... I also joined lj because my real life friends were here, but the friends I added through online-ness ended up being cooler :) my real life friends weren't all that great at livejournal.
litlebanana
Mar. 27th, 2015 01:52 am (UTC)
It was the same for me in that I joined due to real-life friends who are all completely vanished.

My LiveJournal used to be so popular that I would have sometimes 30 or 40 comments on each post. Now I feel Lucky to get one. I think what stopped me from posting for a while was that I made some sex post, and even that got no comments!
elfy
Mar. 26th, 2015 11:57 pm (UTC)
Cool list! I just saw that entry on the frontpage, heh :)
Just have to disagree on one thing:

8! I was today on #1 or top journal (I DON'T KNOW WHY! I'M FREAKED OUT! Sorry for the screaming, too excited o.O) - but I'm not too busy for new people! :D
spacefem
Mar. 27th, 2015 12:58 am (UTC)
ha ha! okay I stand corrected! and now I just checked out your journal and gotta add you after I said I was going to hold off on adding everybody so I guess I'm off on a couple of these, ha ha, thanks for stopping by :)
elfy
Mar. 27th, 2015 09:06 am (UTC)
added you right back :D
e_d_young
Mar. 27th, 2015 01:05 am (UTC)
It's like you're the coach of an underdog team. I like it.
spewjeans
Mar. 27th, 2015 03:07 am (UTC)
Its remarkable :)
aliki
Mar. 28th, 2015 01:29 am (UTC)
Wow, you're #48!!
azuma_chan
Mar. 30th, 2015 04:44 pm (UTC)
I love meeting new people specially those of same interest. I know it's not about the number but hearing from more people is really interesting. I'll try that community of friends that you mentioned here. Was willing to post since the beginning of this month but you know, things got in the way. Thank you for your awesome posts and ideas. Love your positive spirit.

PS. Facebook is cool with me and I don't hate it! Hehe!
Thought I'll just mention that since I still use it ;)
vvalkyri
Apr. 6th, 2015 03:24 am (UTC)
See, the thing is, until very recently, I knew almost everyone on my LJ in person, and had met them In person before we friended on LJ. Many were long time acquaintances before we made deeper connection via LJ and became friends. And without LJ, and after that common real life venue is also no more, they are back to acquaintances. It is a huge loss.
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