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anti-materialism: I'm doing it wrong

First World Christmas. The struggle is real. I really want to keep Christmas low-key... one big gift, 3-4 little gifts.

Josie, age 4, has asked for: a teddy bear.

Well, mostly. in between, when we're in stores, she wants EVERYTHING. Teddy bear is what she drew on her letter to santa in school, but she constantly is at me with "mom I'm out of glue/tape/glitter" and I say, "Maybe Santa can bring you that." And every time we buy another kid a birthday present, she's asking for the same thing. and she's wanted to dress up like "frozen" for a year and I've been thinking it was a phase... no, her frozen phase is going to last well into her 20s at this rate, there are no signs of stopping.

So I have bought her: an elsa dress, a hello kitty game, Legos from LAST christmas that got put away because I decided she wasn't ready, a doll house from her birthday that shipped late so we hid it away... that's right we have a toy backlog!

Marc wants a bbq pop-up game, I want "Guess Who?", she needs a replacement Alphabugs book because it's her favorite book but the copy we have is from our little free library and missing half the pop-ups. It looks like a pop-up book you got in the yard. Because we did.

She wants a makeup kit (I'm going to feminist hell if I get that but dammit she's obsessed) gloves to dress up like elsa, a Rudolph with a light-up nose, I'm getting her some drawing books because she wants to be an artist and is always asking us to show her how to draw stuff.

I really want a marble rally. I have to admit this one is all me. I don't know if Josie even knows about marble rallies. I've wanted one since I was six. I have carefully researched all available options, know my requirements and am so ready for a marble rally. But I don't think it can go on this list that's already too far down the into the depths of the badness. and Olive is just going to eat the marbles anyway. I should just get it for me, and play with it in my office.

Olive is getting a bath book and a puppet. Well, shit, and an elsa dress. Because my 18-month old can sing "Let It Go", further evidence that I'm a terrible parent, and I don't want her to be jealous of her sister's new dress.

I have not bought the teddy bear.

yet.

so I've got way too many little gifts, half of which are in my amazon.com cart and I just can't hit "submit" because I know it's too much.

and for big gifts I can't decide if I should give her only the lego OR the dollhouse OR the marble rally, or just say fuck it and give her all three. you're only four once, right?

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browngirl
Dec. 7th, 2014 10:15 pm (UTC)
You're only four once. :D

altamira16
Dec. 7th, 2014 10:58 pm (UTC)
Get something like q-ba that combines some aspect of legos and marble rally?
erinmdmd
Dec. 7th, 2014 11:45 pm (UTC)
We got my oldest all the cool toys when she was little and mildly interested int hem. Now we have thing 2 and thing 3 (and soon to be 4) coming down the chute, and too many toys that no one is super enthusiastic about and that I am oddly attached to (while cursing the space they take up!). I strongly encourage you to get very very little for the kids for all occasions.
astrogeek01
Dec. 8th, 2014 02:47 am (UTC)
Give her the legos and the dollhouse, and get yourself the marble rally for yourself ;)
kbuggle
Dec. 8th, 2014 02:51 am (UTC)
Do the books have to be for a special occasion? We don't do lots of presents but books are always given freely. If you guys are going anywhere you can be like "here are new books for the car ride to nana's house!"

I would hold off on marble rally until the next birthday since she hasn't brought it up, and give both the dollhouse and the legos. They're both good for manual dexterity and creative play and those skills are important in kindergarten and first grade.

I personally would not purchase the makeup kit, unless it was like "become a butterfly!" makeup kit with sparkles and stuff, more of a face painting kit. Those makeup kits for kids just rub me the wrong way
metcodon1
Dec. 8th, 2014 02:23 pm (UTC)
Her birthday is in 6 months, surely you can hold off on some of the things until then. For example, if you're worried the marbles are a choking hazard for Olive, they will probably be much less of one when she's 2 right?

Also, I agree... make up for little girls skeeves me out... a face painting kit seems like a good compromise (also more fun in the summer probably...)
aparecida
Dec. 8th, 2014 02:55 pm (UTC)
I would skip the Rudolph and gloves and BBQ/Guess Who, give her the dollhouse, and put away the Lego for a bit since Olive will eat them and everyone will step on them. I'd do the marble rally for yourself.
smittenbyu
Dec. 8th, 2014 03:47 pm (UTC)
You are 4 but once! :)

D has been asking for nail polish & makeup too!! I told her maybe when she's 6 we could do it together! The nail polish. Makeup anyway, I think she is interested because she associates it with face painting and going into imaginary play and she sees her friends liking face painting! She absolutely hates anything on her face! :X
shutterbug
Dec. 8th, 2014 05:33 pm (UTC)
I think Marble Rally should be Mark's present to you ;) No guilt that way :)

Dollhouse now is good as she could get out of that stage first. LEGO set can be saved for a birthday.

And yes, teddy bears are awesome. I'm a (recovering) obsessive collector of them. Everyone needs a solid teddy bear friend.
koremelanaigis
Dec. 9th, 2014 08:50 am (UTC)
Give yourself the marble rally, if you keep the box nice and keep it at work where the kids don't see it you can still give it to them later when you're bored of it or find you're not playing with it much anymore.
Don Burton
Dec. 11th, 2014 04:49 am (UTC)
Yes you are doing it wrong. Save something or two for Grandma and Aunt Laura to buy! Then they get everything!
We always counted presents and made sure both piles were the same number. 4 was the Christmas gift total. Multi parts in one item did not count! But it had to look equitable.
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