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nicest way to turn down pizza?

so this'll sound super snobby but we've had two friends this week call and say "you had a new baby, we totally want to help, how about we come visit some night and bring pizza over, just tell us what night!" well since pizza is the easiest/cheapest takeout food option, we did that ourselves already and ate leftovers for days and i'm sick of it, in fact in the state I'm in I really need foods high in iron and fiber and low on dairy and sodium, so I'm not sure how to say no. Like tonight, I'd totally just ask Marc to grill a salmon but we told some friends they could have Wednesday to "help" us... I guess the nicest thing is just to get an extra big salmon and cook for them. that seems a bit odd though, considering I got about two hours of sleep tonight, to be hosting dinner parties. sigh.

well anyway since I'm either too tired to make this decision or just too socially inept to figure it out myself, here's a poll.

I think my favorite option might just be to tell them I can't deal with people right now.

nicest way to turn down pizza?

suggest something else even though it's all more expensive/complicated
eat a slice to be polite, eat for real later
just cook for them
turn down the visit entirely


( 17 comments — Leave a comment )
May. 8th, 2013 05:17 pm (UTC)
I'm a firm believer that Mom gets as much space as she wants, so if they have a problem it's entirely selfish on their end. The offer is nice, but if you don't need the stress then cancel.
May. 8th, 2013 05:20 pm (UTC)
May. 8th, 2013 05:21 pm (UTC)
Have Mark cook for your family. Tell friends dinner is taken care of (no more detail necessary) but that they are welcome to bring something for themselves and visit for a bit anyway.
May. 8th, 2013 06:06 pm (UTC)
People genuinely want to help so I'd just be honest-- "It means a LOT to me that you want to stop by with some food, but we ate some much pizza after the baby was born I just can't handle more of it. Is there anything else you'd want to eat?" Something like that...
May. 8th, 2013 07:10 pm (UTC)
this is good. don't have to suggest something expensive, just say you've had a LOT of pizza recently, they can bring something else, or nothing at all, that's fine too
May. 10th, 2013 03:55 am (UTC)

sometimes they just have no idea what to get and so go with the easiest of ideas. I know I would rather know what to get than keep guessing!

I have suggested slightly better pizza places than the fast-food variety. If they really want to get pizza.
May. 8th, 2013 08:23 pm (UTC)
May. 8th, 2013 11:32 pm (UTC)
This. Especially if they are non-parents. I always genuinely want to help but given that I have NO experience, I had no idea what is/isn't helpful. Guidance is appreciated!
May. 8th, 2013 06:19 pm (UTC)
I think either asking them for something else or declining the visit is fine. (Heck, I've offered to bring food to new parents but wouldn't expect to stay and eat with them - they get their space!)
May. 8th, 2013 07:11 pm (UTC)
I think letting them know that right now that you "really need foods high in iron and fiber and low on dairy and sodium" is perfectly acceptable and if they aren't able to do that that you can perhaps meet up a bit later?
May. 8th, 2013 08:53 pm (UTC)
Pretty much what I was going to say. People want to be helpful, you don't have to suggest salmon but saying what your dietary needs are right now is totally reasonable.

I always offer to bring over food for their freezer so there's meals that you can just pull out and microwave.
May. 9th, 2013 01:28 am (UTC)
I have to turn down pizza (& other things) all the time due to dietary restrictions (basically really really bad reflux).

If you actually want to see them, I think it's perfectly fine to say, "Oh, we've had a lot of pizza lately," or "Oh, I'm really craving X instead!"
In my experience, people don't freak out.
May. 9th, 2013 02:04 am (UTC)
Before I had babies, I heard stories of how family and friends will come by with meals for you after you have a baby. I've yet to experience that. Even pizza :(
May. 9th, 2013 02:56 am (UTC)
"oh, we'd love to see you, but Lady Spacefem can't eat pizza right now, she needs to avoid dairy. Could you bring a salad and I'll cook up hamburgers here?"

you're offering social interaction, turning down their original suggestion and countering with a lower cost, low effort alternative.

and then the Good Thing would be for them to say "No problem, don't turn on the stove, I'll bring over a roasted chicken." and then everyone is happy. or at least you have salad.
May. 9th, 2013 03:35 am (UTC)
say something along the lines of "would love to but my system doesn't cope well with pizza right now". let them ask for or figure out alternatives if they want to.
May. 9th, 2013 05:52 pm (UTC)
"Thank you so much, but I'm going to have to take a raincheck. I'm too exhausted to even think of having anyone over right now!"
May. 9th, 2013 05:54 pm (UTC)
Or if you want to see them and aren't too tired, perfectly okay to say that you appreciate their offer SO MUCH, but you really need foods high in iron and fiber and low on dairy and sodium.
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