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17 weeks today. I'm very healthy, I haven't been sick this week, I ate well, even went for long walks, want to get back into working out. So now that I get to blog about something besides my health problems, I can get back to typical pregnant woman problems.

Once again I am a weird pregnant woman or a bad mother who hates babies because I am annoyed by ALL THE ULTRASOUNDS that people post online. I still think they all look like clouds. I still think the 3D ones look like creepy butter zombies.

And here's me being just a prude... I think it's inappropriate to post a crotch shot of your fetus to announce it's sex. Am I crazy? I mean this far along, odds are good that it's gonna be a person someday. I wouldn't want my vagina on the internet, anywhere, even if it was my pre-vagina before I was born. Something weirds me about about this.

We also had a mini-talk in a community about "crowning shots" on facebook, ie photos of a baby just about to be emerge out of a vagina and into the world. I had no idea this was on the childbirth photo checklist but apparently it's the thing to do these days. And people were saying it should be totally okay to post online or share with family and friends, because it's not your vagina, it's birth, it's amazing and beautiful.

Actually I would say that it IS your vagina, what's more, it's your vagina in some kind of scary demon state. When I had Josie I was naked, sure, that's how I was comfortable. I also kept my glasses off. I did not really want to see the details. I did not feel like my vagina was beautiful, I felt like it was... necessary? Needed a shower after all this? I was a bit worried about it, it seemed stressed? It never crossed my mind to yell, "You guys totally snap a photo of this for the baby book, we'll put it right by the tiny footprints!"

It's not that I don't love the human body, I do. And heaven knows I've shown mine to people... didn't mind nursing in public, love shedding more than what's legal out on the float trips, let my daughter spend a great deal of her age 12-20 months without clothes (as long as the diaper stayed on, eesh) because she was just excited about her ability to take them off. But there's no photographic evidence of that, especially not on the internet. There's a such thing as "oversharing", and this stuff lasts forever. Even if you're a fetus. Am I nuts?


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Nov. 28th, 2012 01:33 pm (UTC)
I think the oversharing things extends beyond just childbirth and related photos. Just look at how individuals document their day to day minute with the world, I'm not surprised that they want to document a baby coming out of their bits or that they're so excited about the sex that they want to point it out to the world.

I didn't even know that these things existed, but now that I do, I'll admit that I'm not too surprised and share your "ick" reaction to them.

At the same time I must admit that I'd probably want a crowning shot for me to see personally (not to share with the world) because that's just such an incredibly amazing thing that our bodies can do and I wouldn't have a good view of it from where I would be. I'd probably not be adverse to a video, again for private consumption only, mostly because I'd want to see the whole process at least once. Then again, I love shows the show you medical procedures (knee replacements, laproscopic surgery) because' I find them fascinating.
Nov. 28th, 2012 02:33 pm (UTC)
Meh, ultrasound pics don't bother me, even the ones that show the sex of the baby. You can't hardly see anything anyway on the 2D ultrasounds, at least I can't... 3D ultrasounds are creepy, your description is quite accurate.

Crowning shot?? GROSS. I was in the room when my sister's baby was born, hell I held one of her legs while she pushed, but holy cow I wanted nothing to do with the business end of that situation. Certainly it was out in the open for me to see if I wanted to, but no, no thanks. Many things are "natural" that are not for the public eye, and this is one of them. Heck I've heard stories about how husbands who look at the destruction down there have problems ever seeing their wife's lady bits the same ever again, like PTSD or something LOL. Why would you want to post that publicly or put it in a scrapbook? Yuck!
Nov. 28th, 2012 03:05 pm (UTC)
I posted the "crotch" shot to the internet to tell my son's sex, but that's probably because I was so amused with how quickly the tech said "it's a boy" and then labeled the part "boyhood."

Then again, I also took one of the ultrasound pictures and photoshoped Kermit's head onto it because that's what the rest of it reminded me of.

I also agree that the 3D ones are seriously creepy.
Nov. 28th, 2012 09:30 pm (UTC)
ha ha... I laughed about how anticlimactic josie's ultrasound was, the tech was just measuring all this stuff and all the sudden she's like, "Oh, do you want to know if it's a boy or a girl?"

us: "Uh, sure."

her: "Girl." (types)

I was like well, okay, that's over with. kinda wish it was a scratch off or something fun like that.
Nov. 28th, 2012 03:12 pm (UTC)
Not nuts at all. Gwen's private parts are that -- private -- and have been since they first came into existence. I tend to be very chary about what I post of them on the internet. (There is one bathtime video, but that's because the cuteness far outweighed the nakedness.)

3D ultrasounds are creepy.

I had no desire for a crowning shot, and was perfectly happy not getting one. Then again, I also had no desire to see the placenta -- I've seen plenty of pictures -- though Joel inspected it with interest.

Edited at 2012-11-28 03:12 pm (UTC)
Nov. 28th, 2012 09:38 pm (UTC)
dude, marc got a grand tour of the placenta! I thought it was freaky weird too but he was all about it, told all his friends and everything. dad thing huh?
Nov. 29th, 2012 12:10 pm (UTC)
Joel didn't go so far as tell his friends about it (I don't think), but he did start telling *me* about it before I told him I didn't really need the details, thankyouverymuch.
Nov. 28th, 2012 04:15 pm (UTC)
Ugh, agree. Esp about the 3D ultrasounds. Which are medically unnecessary.

I always offer a mirror in case the laboring woman wants to watch, but they almost always turn it down :)
Nov. 28th, 2012 09:35 pm (UTC)
the mirror was there but without my glasses it was awfully blurry. So that's when they asked if I could see okay, I said "well I don't have my glasses... but you know what? that's okay!" I liked having a vague idea of what was going on but did not need the details :)
Nov. 28th, 2012 06:06 pm (UTC)
I told my doctor to eject anyone with a camera, and I didn't care who was holding it. He agreed, but he never had to.

Nov. 28th, 2012 09:36 pm (UTC)
SERIOUSLY! I've even seen ones with weird "hi mom!" or "I love you mommy!" and I'm like, "you know it takes like 4-6 months after they're even born before you get to see any believable evidence that they give two flips about you, right?
Nov. 28th, 2012 11:59 pm (UTC)
You are nuts, but in the nicest possible way!

Even so - I agree with pretty much every point you made. Especially the point about the "crowning shots" ... that's just... wow... lost for words.
Nov. 29th, 2012 02:59 am (UTC)
My theory on crowning shots--the one bonus of being the one in labor is that I don't have to EVER SEE THAT EVER. It's like how I think an outfit looks fabulous until I see it in the mirror. Some things are better to experience than record. Why you want that immortalized and then POSTED ON THE INTERNET WHERE IT WILL NEVER DIE, I have no idea.

Ultrasounds look like bad tv reception. Oooh, it's a....blob...with human potential! Awesome! I agree that the crotch shots are a little weird. Never again with that potential human's genitals be discussed so broadly or with so much interest. (Unless, you know, they grow up to be a porn star or something).
Nov. 29th, 2012 04:45 am (UTC)
I did post our ultrasounds to (friends-locked) LJ (they are not there anymore). But I also wrote: "We're not having a baby, we're having a ham..."
Nov. 29th, 2012 02:02 pm (UTC)
Ew to ultrasound crotch shots and ew to crowning shots. Not that I'm going to have an of those soon, but as a nulliparous woman who is quite free with other people's nudity, that is totally unnecessary.
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