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So last week the pregnant circe811 posted a facebook status about feeling sleep-deprived. And of course half the comments she got were about how babies cause more sleep deprivation so get used to it.

Seriously, when I was pregnant and a total insomniac, nothing made me want to slap some bitches more than hearing, "You think it's hard to sleep now! Wait until baaaay-beeeee LOLOLOL!" I had a LOT of bad nights, where I'd go to sleep early then wake up at 3 or 4 and couldn't get back to sleep. I tried reading, relaxing, having snacks, staying in bed, exercise, everything... I was just a mess.

So the "oh just wait!" comments? Not cute, people. Not a good thing to say to a pregnant woman. At least this one.

And you know what I've even found out? It's not even true, what they say about babies keeping you up worse once they're born! I mean yes, as a new mom I've had very few straight-on eight hour stretches of sleep. But I sleep well. I am definitely better rested now than I was before the baby came around.

Look, when pregnancy woke me up, I'd be awake for hours. It was terrible. When the baby wakes me up, I feed her and am back to sleep in 20 minutes.

When the baby won't sleep, my husband takes a shift with her so I can rest. When I was pregnant I couldn't exactly hand him my uterus, bladder, or insanely zonky hormones.

The baby learned the difference between night and day in about eight weeks. She naturally got into a schedule where she didn't stay awake for hours of playtime at night. During those 8 weeks of learning I was on maternity leave, and napping with her during the day. Pregnancy lasted 40 weeks. I worked the whole time. My insomnia started in the first trimester. I hate to admit this, but there was more than one occasion when I could not make it through the workday. When I locked myself in unreserved conference rooms to "stretch", I was... uh... not stretching. I haven't sunk to that once since returning to work.

My journal entry for June 8 says I woke up at 2:30 AM and could not get back to sleep. I worked all day. Then I went into labor around 7pm. I was awake all through labor, birth, and several hours after to feed her and get fixed up. So yeah. I'd had four hours of sleep, then was awake over 30 hours straight. Run that marathon, mothers.

After the baby was born, Marc said I managed to sleep through a dozen cleaning ladies practically banging pans together marching-band style in my hospital room.

I was probably making up for the past nine months. I don't honestly remember anything about it. It was awesome.

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sharya
Jan. 7th, 2011 01:39 am (UTC)
For whatever reason, I had to pee every 50-90 minutes while pregnant. It started approximately week 8, and continued until birth. That did not change when I slept either.

I was INFINITELY more rested after giving birth. That was with both of my kids.

All those condescending wankers can go to hell.
make_meabird
Jan. 7th, 2011 02:40 am (UTC)
Ugh. I HATED those comments too! :/
aliki
Jan. 7th, 2011 12:56 pm (UTC)
If I had to compare the pregnancy with the first three months of baby, I'd say pregnancy was definitely easier. When Erika woke up, she did NOT go back to sleep-- she just cried and cried and cried. She would nurse for 30 minutes, throw up half her milk, I'd spend 10 minutes walking around the house trying to burp her and calm her crying head, then she'd fall asleep for 30 minutes (but had to be held!!), then wake and want to nurse all over again.

I got no more than 30 minutes of sleep at a time, round the clock, for at least 5 weeks. With pregnancy, in the end I resorted to sleeping in a sitting-up position and I thought that was terrible. When Erika arrived, I had to still sleep in the sitting-up position but now I had to hold Erika too!!

I say all of this as someone who was 41 weeks pregnant with a 9 lb 8 oz baby. That's the size of most "1 month old babies" except now imagine that 1 month baby being inside you, squirming and kicking and punching. I know my last few weeks of being pregnant was just spent being awake.

I think time also makes as amnesiac (that's the only plausible reason I can think of why anybody would have more than one child, after having gone through labor). So as the days and weeks and months (and years) start to roll by, it's easy to go "LOLLOL wait till baby gets here" because honestly most mothers are so sleep-deprived we dont even remember what it was like to be pregnant and STILL sleep-deprived.
ricknm505
Jan. 7th, 2011 04:40 pm (UTC)
So this basically comes down to the cure for internal insomnia is to have an external source for not sleeping imposed on you. It seems to me someone could write a program on a device that gives little electric shocks keeping you awake randomly and sell it to people who have problems sleeping.
rottenfruit
Jan. 7th, 2011 06:24 pm (UTC)
I slept so much while pregnant. I really miss it. I haven't slept for more than four consecutive hours in four months.
smittenbyu
Jan. 7th, 2011 09:25 pm (UTC)
second this too!

But I hated those kind of comments too. There were occasional bad nights and people would say that and it would drive me mad...
tiferkid
Jan. 8th, 2011 02:21 am (UTC)
So much this.
just wait...har, har, har! Telling me I have bad stuff to look forward to is just mean. Coupled with the fact that after the baby I can share childcare with my husband, those comments were mean and wrong. I'd take baby over pregnant. And baby is cute and smiles, so it's a win all around.
feanelwa
Jan. 8th, 2011 01:10 pm (UTC)
Sort of like "You want a natural birth? Ahaha, you are bound to fail, you'll be screaming for pain relief and everything will go wrong and you'll end up horribly injured." People like making people scared of the things that have scared them because otherwise you make them look like a coward. My mother does this about *everything* ("Ooh, you won't cope with a filling, the dentist uses a needle the size of a pencil and they drill into your head for an hour") and if I am ever pregnant I will pretend to have got a one-year job in Canada or somewhere further away than she can travel.
jackiechloe
Jan. 11th, 2011 01:52 am (UTC)
I haven't slept more than a four-hour stretch in the last nine months--usually I sleep in 1.5-hour snatches between breastfeeds--and it is *glorious* when the baby's in her own bed for a couple hours at night and I can lay *however I want*. Still, I have only had to be up with her for more than twenty or thirty minutes at a time once or twice a month.

While I was pregnant with her, I slept much worse. For openers, I never, ever, EVER got to sleep in my bed alone--she was always there! Plus I was awake every hour, trying to ease the leg cramps/backache/fetal gymnastics. More nights than not, I found myself downstairs, devouring the kitchen at four a.m. because I was just too blasted *hungry* to sleep. At least twice a week I was up for two or more hours in the middle of the night.

Someday (from my mouth to god's ear!) I will again sleep like I did before Norah was conceived--eight, nine, or maybe ten hours in a night. I will stay up past one o'clock reading, and when I go to bed I won't creep quietly, quietly to avoid waking the baby. I'll lie on my stomach whenever I want, and my breasts won't be in the way. I will wake up once around sunrise to notice how comfy my bed is, then roll back over and sleep till ten.

In the meantime, at least I'm not trying to sleep while pregnant!
rdfreak
Mar. 15th, 2011 12:19 am (UTC)
I guess it depends on how quickly one can get to sleep too.
Not that I'm pregnant or have kids yet, but like you, I seem to be able to fall aslepe relatively quickly; have always been like that, so I would totally hope it's the same for when I've got my baby. :)
mrs_dragon
May. 28th, 2015 02:18 am (UTC)
A-freaking-men! I did not remember this post but THANK YOU!

In my case, my sleep is of okay quality (other than the getting up 800 million times to pee/roll over/readjust). It's just that the Beans are taking everything I've got. Walking up a flight of stairs leaves me panting. Shopping for an hour knocks me out. My anti-nausea med leaves me groggy the next morning (so I can't seem to get moving in the mornings) and I'm just always tired. It's so aggravating to have things you want/need to do and no stamina to do them.
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