So what's the timing like in this situation... should we throw something together, try to have the shower next weekend before my friend leaves to pick up the baby? Or just wait until she gets back? If we did that it'd be a little more organized, and we'd be sure she'd have the baby, but I know people really need stuff for newborns and I'd worry that we'd be late in giving stuff to her. thoughts?
this actually has come up before with my friends... I knew another woman who was a foster mom, and adopted one of the babies in her foster care. We felt like giving a shower, you know, welcome the baby into the family, but the baby had already been living with the family for months so the timing felt weird and I don't think we ever did anything. and I feel bad, because I feel like adoptive parents deserve every bit as much love and celebration as birth parents.