January 20th, 2003


Relationship Advice Of The Day

I am seriously so sick of how all the guys at work talk about their wives/girlfriends! I never hear any of them say something like, "Angie is just so fantastic, she did the nicest thing for me, I care about her so much." No, it's always, "Dude, I can't go camping this weekend, Angie's been laying into me about time and there's no way she'll let me out Saturday!" If an alien visited my office, he'd think a "wife" was some kind of monster who kept a man from doing anything fun, buying anything new, or leaving the house in general. If my boyfriend talked about me like that, I'd be pissed.

People... when you do something nice for your significant other, it should be because you care about them. Because you don't want to hurt their feelings. Not because you fear their wrath. That's not how a healthy relationship works, it should be based on mutual respect, not threats. The guy in my last example could have sounded so much cooler with a statement like this:

"No, I don't think I'll go camping with you guys this weekend. It's angie's and my anniversary and because I am a loving and devoted partner, I feel that she would appreciate my presence."

Is that so bad?