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a long time ago I was pregnant and I also had an almost-three year old spacekid to chase around. she was getting heavy, I was getting heavy, and one day she ran to me to be picked up and I felt something bad happen in my back and had to put her down right away, and I announced okay, you are no longer being picked up. SORRY.

flash forward. I am not pregnant. I have a six year old and an almost FOUR year old, and said four year old still insists on being picked up and carried around on a regular basis. this kid is heavy. Louis C.K. described his toddler as "tiny, but she has the density of a dying sun."

I say "I can't pick you up you're too heavy." And she says in her cutest voice, "But I'm really small, mama." then she stands there stubbornly, and her big sister is getting impatient, I'm getting impatient, I'm like okay fine whatever and I pick her up or if we're really trekking give her a piggy pack ride.

This post really has no point except to say younger kids totally get away with so much more craziness because there's nothing really forcing them to grow up.

Also I gotta be strong and stand my ground, officially cut this kid off. Also make her stop sucking her thumb. Somehow.

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betawriter
Feb. 11th, 2017 06:07 pm (UTC)
I sucked my finger (pointer finger of my right hand, I just had to be different) until probably second grade. It caused all sorts of problems. It forced my front teeth to grow funny, which meant I had to get a retainer in 7th and 8th grade. I vaguely remember braces right after I stopped sucking my finger, too? But perhaps that was a fever dream, I'm not sure.

Anyway, wow, I was super stubborn about it. Now that I'm 43 (!!), I still get 'dry finger' sensations and furtively stick that same finger in my water glass a few times a day, no lie. Only people who know me really well know why I do that. I won't ever stick it in my mouth again, but water glasses are fair game.

tl,dr; nip that thumb sucking in the bud, you don't want her growing up to be me. :)
aposteriori
Feb. 12th, 2017 02:53 am (UTC)
Something I've heard works from friends, but B is too young for me to have tried myself...
Maybe you can make her fourth birthday a milestone for these two things. "When you are four, you'll be big enough to walk by yourself" "four year olds are too big to suck thumbs". Birthdays are still big deals at that point, so mention it early to get her used to the idea, and cut her off on the day. Also may help if you have a trade - "when you're four, you'll be big enough to (something something), but too big to be carried"
lantairvlea
Feb. 12th, 2017 10:20 pm (UTC)
I'll have to watch this with #3. At five and three the older two have experienced the "Mom can't" but now we're done and there won't be that natural cut-off.

Mine don't suck their thumbs, but fingers in the mouth all the time! It drives me nuts. Number one has mostly grown out of it after going through a stage of it being really bad. Of course no amount of "you're going to get sick" seems to phase them.
smittenbyu
Feb. 13th, 2017 01:32 am (UTC)
thank you for this post. It's validation and an acknowledgement of how younger ones do get away with so much more! ;) I am surrounded with hubby, parents, sister, in-laws who are all the youngest children in their respective birth order and they role their eyes if I ever say anything of that line! ha ha haha...
lillerina
Feb. 25th, 2017 08:57 am (UTC)
I sucked my thumb until I was about 19 and it caused no long term damage. If you're determined to stop her, you can get thumb guards on etsy that cover the thumb and button around the wrist. She won't want to suck it if there's fabric covering the thumb.
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