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happy baby. airplanes. life is good.



this photo is brought to you by mrs_dragon, who made the amazing quilt. It's way huge so if I took a picture of the whole thing there wouldn't be much baby, but it's gorgeous.

I'm in a much better mood today. Marc and I are lounging around after some good weekend relaxation. Mom and Dad came down, helped around the house, and watched the baby some while we SLEPT.

When I count "hours of sleep" that I'm getting it makes life look alright... so I can't really be tired, right? I mean yeah, sleep doesn't get to be longer than three hours but lots of chunks add up to real rest I think? So I'm not sure why I still feel run down... healing? Milk production?

They made us a lovely steak dinner last night and there was a bottle of very nice champagne. I'm so happy that I can have a full glass of wine again! Of course since I haven't really been drinking in months, one glass is all I need to feel really relaxed.

Mom also thought of some strategies for us to have some better nights. It's pretty normal for Josie to wake up around midnight or one and want a three hour "let's hang out and eat" party. We put her down, she yells! She just wants to play, and that's tough on us... interrupted sleep is fine, I can wake up, feed her, check her diaper and go back to sleep in 30 minutes and not feel like I've missed out. But the stay awake sessions are tough. So we tried giving her a bath last night at 8 so she'd be good and awake, with hopes that she'd be more tired at night... it kinda worked. Her late night party was only two hours.

When she wants to sleep she wants to SLEEP. I'll see her snoozing away at 7pm and I know that every second of her sleeping is a second that I will not be sleeping late at night... but we can't really get her excited about playtime if it's not on her goals for the hour. So oh well.

Mom says after two weeks we can really start deploying some schedule strategies... until then, it's a lost cause, you just have to go with whatever. So we are. But that two weeks starts Wednesday! I'm not asking for eight hours of uninterrupted sleep, but if she's going to have a four hour nap, would it kill us if it started at midnight?

Oh one more picture, because it's father's day! The dads in my life have been a ton of help lately... my dad's been amazing. And then there's this dad... he takes care of me, he acts silly, and he's very comfy for babies to lounge on:

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humaazul
Jun. 20th, 2010 07:16 pm (UTC)
Milk production takes a lot of calories. WW gives women something like 500 extra calories a day if they are lactating.

Also, your body is still healing! Give yourself time.


Good luck with the sleep scheduling.
deana_in_texas
Jun. 20th, 2010 07:53 pm (UTC)
What a great quilt! You're lucky to have great friends who can make such things for you :) And I'd say the little one likes it too, based on her expression.
mrs_dragon
Jun. 20th, 2010 08:59 pm (UTC)
Yay! That picture just made my afternoon! : D

And 12 hours of sleep that's broken into bits just isn't as good as a nice solid 6 or 8, so it makes total sense to me why you are tired.
amy0catherine
Jun. 20th, 2010 09:07 pm (UTC)
Sleep in pieces is not the same AT ALL. Your body doesn't get good sleep cycles and you miss out on a lot of deep sleep. Milk production and healing aren't helping either but the sleep chunking is a killer.

As for her days and nights being switched...if you haven't already tried this and you want suggestions...try making life really interesting during the day - lights on/curtains open, noise (one of the few times I advocate leaving a TV on just because), time outside in the morning when you won't melt etc. Then make nighttime BORING - leave lights off as much as possible, minimal noise and interaction, lots of swaddling :) After about 2 weeks I start waking during the day too. Unswaddle, poke, etc and feed if its been any more than 3 hours. They need a certain number of feeds during a 24 hour period (what that number is only baby knows!) so I don't want to skip any in daylight hours.
feanelwa
Jun. 20th, 2010 10:02 pm (UTC)
A friend of mine's baby was awake in the night, asleep during the day, and she figured it was because when she was pregnant, the baby had been rocked to sleep by being walked around with during the day, but not at night. I'm not sure what she did to bring her round to grown-up sleep cycle though. They co-slept which helped until the 6-mo baby escaped from the bed and started pulling the wallpaper off the walls :)
spacefem
Jun. 20th, 2010 10:32 pm (UTC)
I wouldn't say her days and nights are swapped so much as just totally random! I feel like when I feed her there's a 1/3 chance that she'll want to stay up and play afterwards, which is fun during the day, not so fun at night. We're trying to log everything to keep better track of it. We're definitely trying to make day and night obvious but I don't think she's getting it yet!
amy0catherine
Jun. 21st, 2010 04:03 am (UTC)
Sounds like you are off to a good start. She's little. As hard as it is to remember when you are living it, she wasn't even born two weeks ago. Snuggle lots, take turns sleeping and it will pass before you know it! Speaking of taking turns, that was another thing that worked well for us..if we were up more than an hour or hour and half at night, we'd wake the other and switch. Gets you at least a smidge more sleep.
aliki
Jun. 21st, 2010 04:47 pm (UTC)
Have you seen this??

http://www.trixietracker.com/
jume
Jun. 20th, 2010 10:32 pm (UTC)
I know it's rough for you, but the idea of a newborn's late night Baby Parties is just cracking me up xD

You're doing so well to get through this!
litlebanana
Jun. 21st, 2010 03:07 am (UTC)
Honestly, I didn't feel like a normal human being again till I finished nursing. At one year. But then again, I also had a mega stressful job.
litlebanana
Jun. 21st, 2010 03:07 am (UTC)
P.S. Baby is adorable :)
secretsoflife
Jun. 21st, 2010 04:37 am (UTC)
regarding schedule strategies, i've seen a couple of folks recommend this book as being effective for getting their newborns sleeping well very quickly. ymmv, of course :)
smittenbyu
Jun. 21st, 2010 01:33 pm (UTC)
beautiful blanket!! and of course beautiful baby!

You just gave birth, your organs are all moving about - regrouping, sleep deprivation, worry/concern, feeding - tires you out no doubt! Use it as an excuse to get as much rest as you can and be pampered as much as you want! ;)

Sleep schedules are such a challenge. Like your mom said the first two weeks you kind of have to go with the baby's schedule. Our little one just doesn't wake up - when we try waking her up in the afternoons. So, we just try to keep her awake in the evenings at least. She seems to be figuring out day and night and have had a few good nights! (which would mean less crying, feeding every 3 hours, and sleep through in between)!

just enjoy your little one.. they grow so fast! (Funny - I am talking like I have a teenager for a kid! HL be turning a month old in three days!)
jackiechloe
Jun. 22nd, 2010 04:40 pm (UTC)
I *love* the quilt!

Personally, I don't recommend waking the baby during the day to try to get her to sleep at night. That way be dragons--or at least over-tired babies, and 'round about eight in the evening, I'd rather fight a dragon! I have found that the more and better Norah sleeps in the day, the more and better she'll sleep at night.

Norah spent the first couple weeks wanting a 4am baby party, but she pretty quickly twigged to the fact that the party guests were no fun at that time of the ... night? morning? It's been weeks now since she tried to throw a party between 10:30 and 6:00. Hang in there!
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