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housewarming & the air fresheners

Returned some gifts to Bath & Body works over the weekend. I haven't been in that store in forever, but I'd have to say I was totally disappointed.

Several of Marc's Atlanta friends asked if we'd registered for housewarming... I'd never heard of anyone doing such a thing, but since more than one asked I guess maybe it's a common thing down there? Anyway now I wish we had a custom like that here. I know registering is a little controversial... when my parents got married they didn't register, it was sort of frowned upon, like you're begging for gifts. But now everybody just acknowledges the fact that married couples get gifts so everybody registers for weddings. I still think it's uncouth to put your registry information right there in the wedding invite, but I'm all for registering.

For our housewarming, people got us gifts, but they weren't all useful. We need a lot of things and have been spending tons of money lately. When we lived in the apartment we didn't need curtains, door mats, or gardening tools. Also now that we have a dining room we have a dining room table, but don't have enough placemats for all the seats.

I didn't have all these deep thoughts before the housewarming party because I didn't think people would get us things. But they did.

They got us air fresheners.

I could have one in every room now if I wanted, our whole house could smell like a garden path or cucumber melon, but I'm not that excited about the idea. Never have been. I kind of inherited my mom's philosophy that if something smells in your house, you should know it. Don't try to cover up the fact that something crawled into a cabinet and died in there... go find it and give it a proper burial. Your sense of smell is an instinctual tool and should be used as such. So while an occasional candle is okay, I bagged up all the air fresheners for their triumphant return to the retail world. The first ones to go had to be the "systems" that require special refills. We just moved more STUFF than I'd ever like to think about, if an air freshener is something that could one day take up space in a box, it's got to go.

It's been a while since I was in a bath & body works and I gotta say, they have nothing useful in that store. We used to buy the occasional bar of soap there but they stopped making BARS OF SOAP... too practical? Apparently I'm the last person in the world to wash myself with something other than a plastic-bottle consuming gel type substance. I also wonder how much lotion the average american goes through... looking at this place you'd think we slather it on full-body style before every meal.

I got away with some shampoo and conditioner, which is strong-smelling but not offensive. It's something I can use.

Dear friends, if any of you ever buy a house and register, I'll support that. I'll add to the matching placemat collection, contribute to the new set of towels, whatever. I won't be the 20th person to get you an air freshener.

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humaazul
May. 7th, 2010 12:00 pm (UTC)
Years ago, when I moved out of my parents house, my mom's friends had a "Marlo's on her own!" party. It was awesome. I registered and everything. I fully support the idea of registering for stuff. So you don't get airfreshners. I agree with you a billion percent on that.
spacefem
May. 7th, 2010 12:04 pm (UTC)
lol... that almost sounds like a party for your mom. "I kicked out my child!"

I thought of another thing... we got tons of home stuff when we got married (because we registered, duh) but didn't have a house so we didn't need it that bad. It seems like the times I've needed this stuff the most, first apartment and first house, have been totally unrelated to the wedding thing.
humaazul
May. 7th, 2010 07:26 pm (UTC)
Exactly. The invitations talked about how dumb it is to have to wait for a man or a baby to get gifts. You need them when you move out or in to a house.

I feel like I can guess a source or two of the air freshner gifts.
mrs_dragon
May. 7th, 2010 12:03 pm (UTC)
Weird.

For our housewarming party I wasn't expecting gifts, I just wanted to meet the neighbors. But Every Single Person brought gifts. Plants. Food. This weird ceramic santa tea set (it was just before Christmas, but what?), some dishes, photoframes. With the exception of Santa though, it was all useful "housey" stuff.
rottenfruit
May. 7th, 2010 12:37 pm (UTC)
I'm scent-sensitive, so I HATE getting gifts like that. Air fresheners, smelly lotions, etc.
zonk
May. 7th, 2010 04:15 pm (UTC)
Have a friend that purchased his first house. I suggested he throw a house-warming party just to get everyone together all in the same place and same time - to celebrate and just enjoy the moment. But the first thing most people will ask is "what do you need, what can I bring?" I think it's fine then to give them some direction, maybe registering is a little overboard, but I think bringing gifts is perfectly acceptable.
astrogeek01
May. 7th, 2010 06:28 pm (UTC)
I think it used to be more common that people would get married and settle into a place at the same time. Now people are out on their own for a while first, so you need all that "moving out on one's own" stuff like pots and pans and a small set of dishes. And then like you guys did, living in apartments before buying a house. I totally think it makes sense to register for a housewarming. And also for that initial moving out on one's own thing. *keeps in mind for 16 years down the road*
aliki
May. 8th, 2010 03:25 pm (UTC)
I buy appliances at BB&B, like my KichenAid mixer, rice cooker, and coffee maker; and then random things like cookie trays, Pyrex containers, and sheet sets.
jutecat
May. 9th, 2010 01:42 am (UTC)
bath and body works used to have all sorts of different kinda of nice hair stuff and makeup and they got rid of it all :(

you should check out lushusa.com
they have awesome bar soap
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