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oh no, wedding!

you know how in Mean Girls, the main character spends all this time talking about one popular girl even though she knows she shouldn't? someone gets her started and she just goes with it like that? that's how it is with the wedding. I've always been annoyed by people, especially women, sorry, who go into "I can't talk about anything else" mode when planning weddings, so I sort of promised to try extra hard not to do it myself. But honestly, I could journal about it every day. And I'm always getting into these traps, pulled in I think by people who seem to be or are honestly interested in the plans. The worst people are ones who were married in the last five years or so. There's a girl in my office who's super nice, and we always had things to talk about before, but now she's always asking how The Plans are going and I TELL HER, once I get started I can't stop, it's like I'm pressurized or something. The back of my mind wants to change the subject but the front of it can only ask for centerpeice ideas.

Granted, it's been a big week. We set our date... August 4th! We put a deposit on a reception place, booked the church, and secured four attendants. Well, my sister was sort of a given but we also asked divine ms. a and her man, and marc's cousin, and they're all on board.

I'm really happy we were able to get a date in 2007 before my classes start. That week after August 4th is the last class-free week of the summer, so we really snuck it in, but this gives us about ten weeks of planning which I think is perfect. I've had like five people ask if I'm pregnant! Crap, who asks that? At least two of those sounded WAY too serious, like they really didn't see any other reason to want to limit wedding planning time. I'd say staying GROUNDED is a very, very good reason, especially after this week.

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easter
May. 19th, 2007 03:11 pm (UTC)
If people are honestly interested -- and people who care about you will be -- don't worry about telling them when they ask. :P Heck, *I* want to hear!

Next time someone asks you if you're pregnant, raise your eyebrows and say, "Excuse me? Sorry, I'm just shocked someone would even ask that!" I've gotten that question a few times and that's always been the best response. (People are SUCH stooges.)
tempus_aeterna
May. 19th, 2007 03:14 pm (UTC)
The wedding is a huge event in you life right now and it *should* be. It only happens once (well. . .) and you are making a lifetime commitment. If you want to talk about it, talk about it. Don't feel that you shouldn't bother other people with the wedding and don't feel you are somehow annoying, crazy, or not respectable if you speak about it. I believe your friends are all big boys and girls and can handle a little wedding gushing. There is definitely too far overboard on the wedding craziness, but if you aren't posting to LJ five times a day, every day, about it, I don't think you are there yet. Don't forget the rest of your life, but don't try to sequester the wedding into a corner either. Right now it (and he) are a big part of your life.
angry_amy
May. 19th, 2007 03:44 pm (UTC)
i swore i wouldnt become that wedding crazed girl.

i think its the nature of the beast though. even the most well grounded women get sucked in by the industry.

i give you made kudos for the fact that you all bumped your wedding date up a bit.... and really are only allowing yourselves about 10 weeks prep time. we allowed ourselves a year. i have been begging for it to be over for about 2 months.
angry_amy
May. 19th, 2007 03:46 pm (UTC)
also, my uncle is an expert bullshit artist.
when we got engaged, he and my mom were in town and we went to dinner with my grandparents. at the middle of the table, and when the resturant was silent... he announced that the only reason we are getting married is because we are pregnant.
and he did it straightfaced. my mom choked, knowing that it was a con act, and then we spent the next 5 weeks having to convince my grandmother that we werent pregnant.
dreago
May. 19th, 2007 04:11 pm (UTC)
I don't see why you can't talk about it whenever, wherever. You're doing something major, even if the event is low key. Most of your off time is spent planning for something. If you were going on a mega vacation, remodeling your house, or having a baby, I expect there'd be tons of posts about that. So what if you're annoying? You'll have your wedding and you will be back to normal. It's okay to be carried away every once and awhile.

But I'm biased. I was married Aug 5th, almost 6 years ago. So I fall into that category you mentioned.

And I also think 10 weeks is short, only because I don't know if you have booked a hall and a photographer. Those two have to be booked first and are often harder to book. If you got those, then everything else will totally fit in 10 weeks. Has nothing to do with babies, at least from my POV.

spacefem
May. 19th, 2007 05:04 pm (UTC)
hall, yes! photographer, no. that's a good idea though.
feanelwa
May. 19th, 2007 04:55 pm (UTC)
A wedding is an enormous thing to plan, like moving house. Talking about it on LJ is for one thing a way to give yourself something to read so that you know it's real and you are organising it successfully - and to keep track of what you've done. Hell, I post about vacuuming and DIY on LJ so that I know what I've done.
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