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cross polling

I think my web poll is an interesting one this week, so I'm cross-polling (heh) it here in livejournal to see if I get similar results. I'm a little puzzled by what's winning among spacefem.com visitors, but let's discuss this after you take the poll:

What's the worst thing to do?

Park in a handicap space
18(20.9%)
Not tip waitresses
18(20.9%)
Talk on a cellular phone during dinner with someone
11(12.8%)
Make a little kid cry
15(17.4%)
Not rewind the rental video when it's done
0(0.0%)
Run a website that sends SPAM e-mail
24(27.9%)




See, according to my web site, here's what everyone thinks is the worst thing to do:

1. Run a website that sends SPAM e-mail (36%)
2. Make a little kid cry (30%)
3. Talk on a cellular phone during dinner with someone (12%)
4. Not tip waitresses (10%)
5. Park in a handicap space (9%)
6 Not rewind the rental video when it's done (0%)

Not what I expected at all.

Call me weird, but I think not tipping a waitress is one of the most worthless, asshole things you can do. I've never even been a waitress, but I've had friends to did it, and their $60 paychecks did not help with school expenses. Even if I get a miserably horrible waitress, I tip 10%, I can't believe this came in at #4.

Parking in a handicap parking space is the next worse, in my book, the fact that this came in at #5 is just weird. Maybe it's because people didn't take the poll seriously, because my site isn't really serious to start with? I would never, ever park in the handicap spot, that's positively awful! It doesn't matter that there are usually too many and they're usually empty, you are a worthless sack of dog shit if you park in handicapped spots without being handicapped.

Not rewinding the rental video is pretty stupid and inconsiderate. I'd put that next. Then I'd put SPAMMING. Yes, it's bad, but it doesn't hurt anyone. Then I'd rank talking on a cell phone, and making a little kid cry would be last. Whoever thinks that making a little kid cry is the worst thing you can do has never been around little kids, I used to babysit for kids who would throw a tantrum because I said they couldn't have cookies for dinner, I didn't feel bad about that one little bit. Little kids cry all the time. It's good for their lungs. I didn't say, "Kick them in the head until they cry."

So, maybe I'm totally weird here, I just wanted to see what you guys thought. I know the poll is totally unscientific, but I'm mystified by the results all the same.

Comments

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kriski
Aug. 23rd, 2002 06:55 am (UTC)
regarding the waitress issue...tipping culture is very different in germany. you get actually paid somewhat decently for waiting tables. tips still are nice, but they are extra. and especially in studenty places people rarely tip. just a thought.
spacefem
Aug. 23rd, 2002 07:10 am (UTC)
good point, I guess I have to take that into consideration. you crazy europeans are always throwing these things off :)

But to put things in perspective, normal minimum wage here is like $5.15 an hour. I made $7 an hour at my last retail job, $12 an hour at my engineering internship. Minimum wage for waitresses/waiters is like $2.13 or so, I'd have to check. They really don't get anything for just being there.
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tinyflamingo
Aug. 23rd, 2002 07:21 am (UTC)
See, it depends upon the waitress. If the service is bad because things are held up in the kitchen, or if she's a little dippy, yeah, she'll still get the minimum percent tip. However, if the waitress is at all bitchy or rude for absolutely no reason, which has happened to me a handful of times, she deserves, and gets, absolutely nothing.
feanelwa
Aug. 23rd, 2002 07:29 am (UTC)
Well i picked talking on a cellphone, then i'd rank parking in a handicapped space, then not tipping waitresses. I went on the basis of the message sent out when people do those things.

Someone talking on a cellphone to someone else while they're having dinner with me, would suggest to me that they so little value me as a person, that they'd rather have a conversation with a different person in my company, even though i've made the effort to get dressed up and come out with them, and the person on the phone has done nothing better than press a button.

Someone parking in a handicapped spot is irritating and causes unnecessary physical pain to the handicapped person who drives up and finds there aren't any spaces and has to park somewhere else, but they're unlikely to take it personally, and can always wait and shout at the non-handicapped person who did it when they come back. (However what annoys me is when a handicapped person who's for real, but has a condition that isn't visible, merely causes pain while moving, gets bawled out because "you don't look disabled". This happens to my mother all the time, and i always give them an earful back again, but she just ignores them and keeps going. Odd woman, my mother.)

Waitressing is the same here, but if someone doesn't tip you, you can always flirt with the next table so they give you more. And if someone chooses not to tip, it's usually because you've spilled food on their lap or something; therefore if they didn't tip and didn't have a reason, they obviously must have been expecting to have things spilled on them, and one must take note of this for when they next visit :) i also dine out so rarely that it just doesn't come in as an issue.

The rental video is also a non-issue for me, because i don't have a VCR and generally don't watch TV unless lots of us are getting together at someone else's house, so i have no idea of how irritated i'd be if it happened to me.

I agree with you, Spacefem, on the little kids. Telling the truth is the one thing you can do that's most likely to make a kid cry: "Clouds aren't actually solid, they're made of little droplets of water, if you jumped on one you'd fall through." - waaahhh...etc. Why? What's the point? The truth is a good thing and the more of it that is told the better! It also puts anyone that hears it off having children of their own, ever, which can only be doing the universe a favour.

Spamming is last on the list then, i guess...however that doesn't mean that i don't think anyone who does it should be shot. Interesting. Maybe it's because it's more relevant to my everyday life. Hmm.
katlynel
Aug. 23rd, 2002 10:10 am (UTC)
I have seen waitresses cry over not being tipped more times than I care to think of. I have done it myself. It's not the money, it's the principle of the fact that generally those tables treat you like utter shit and then stiff you. Maybe when you stiff waitresses it's because it's deserved, but every single person I knew while waitressing who got stiffed was an excellent server who was simply dealing with an utter asshole who refused to realize that waitresses are human beings with feelings just like the rest of us.
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feanelwa
Aug. 23rd, 2002 07:31 am (UTC)
Sorry, that was a bit long :(
spacefem
Aug. 23rd, 2002 07:34 am (UTC)
that's okay, it made sense. and the thing about jumping on clouds made me laugh, that's so awesome.
paranoidandroid
Aug. 23rd, 2002 07:34 am (UTC)
You need a way for the people to list the things in order of worst first ...

And a couple pointers.

In the UK (where I live) .. waitresses are notoriously slow - and they are paid ok... so tipping is not a vitial part of their lives. My American girl friend explained the situation out there... so not tipping in America seems to be a worse crime than not tipping here. I'd rate this last (for the UK)

I dont rent videos, only DVD's .. and they don't need rewinding!! :) (So I'd rate this Joint Last)
Making kids cry is almost a cert. They are whiney little brats that cry when they dont get their own way. I hate kids, good job I'll never be a father! Actively being mean to kids is probably bad. I'd rate this 3rd.
Sending SPAM is a crime against netiquette ... but really, it's not life threatening. Anyone who rates SPAM above parking in a Disabled spot needs a visit from me... I'll "adjust" their sense or reality! :) . Rated 4
People that use Cell phones (we like to refer to them as Mobiles here in the UK) in restaurants are anoying as hell ... worse are the morons that use them in cinemas and theaters. I think the cinema or theater is partly to blame. They should line he walls with lead or something to stop the phone signals. Serious I think this is the second worse crime people commit.
Last would be parking in a disabled spot.

So there ya go. My view on the sins (that you described) of the world. :)
feanelwa
Aug. 23rd, 2002 07:42 am (UTC)
We're not notoriously slow, you're just notoriously impatient! I demand that you take that back! And it depends on whether you count £4 an hour to be "ok" - if you have to buy 2 new sets of school uniform, pay a babysitter and buy food for a whole family on it, i'd say it's very not ok.

And as a completely separate point, someone invented wall material that blocks mobile phone signals, but they're having issues with building with it because in a fire the firemen often use CB radios of pretty much the same frequency to send information to the crew who've gone into the buildings about how many people are inside and where, and that sort of thing.
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katlynel
Aug. 23rd, 2002 10:05 am (UTC)
Not tip waitresses. Hah, I never get tipped and I contribute at least as much to society as they do. And they get more paid! According to reviews here, serving in resturants isn't a lowpaying job at all, and they easily earn more than I did last 2 years, and then tips comes on TOP of that.
*checks your profile* Maybe in Norway ... in which case waitstaff there are lucky sods. In the US, waiters are paid essentially nothing by the restaurant, we work entirely for tips, and while we make slightly more than a minimum-wage hourly job would pay, we work ten times as hard and deal with ten times as much crap from customers.
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mactavish
Aug. 23rd, 2002 08:05 am (UTC)
I have no problem with parking in a handicapped spot. I do it at least once a day. :)

I've got the little blue placard, though.

Maybe it depended on how people interpreted the questions. For instance, I assumed "park in a handicapped space" meant at all, not only for the able-bodied, and I assumed "make a little kid cry" meant just for the hell of it.
gikiski
Aug. 23rd, 2002 08:15 am (UTC)
I was initially torn between making a kid cry and parking in a handicap zone then decided that sometimes you could do NOTHING and kids nowadays would cry. You absolutely have to do something to park in a handicapped zone - poorly indicated zones excluded.

I agree with your concepts on tipping wait-folk and would rank that my new #2 choice compared to the above about the kid - were the poll prioritized.
redkitten
Aug. 23rd, 2002 08:48 am (UTC)
I would have to say that not tipping a waitress is BY FAR the worst. I am a waitress, and at $2.65 (that's the minimum US wage), I don't make enough money for groceries.

With making a kid cry, I assumed you meant "doing something to make a kid cry" like taking their toys or...I don't know. You'd have to MAKE the kid cry, thus that's the second.

Cell phone is third, I HATE that.

I'd put parking in a handicap space next. I go to Walmart sometimes, where there are like, 300 empty handicap spaces, and I park in the furthest one away from the door, and only when I can't find another space. Because it's inconsiderate of Walmart to HAVE all of those excess handicap spaces, in my opinion.

THEN rental videos, then spamming.
katlynel
Aug. 23rd, 2002 10:01 am (UTC)
The law requires a certain number of handicapped spaces as a percentage of how much customer turnover they estimate the business has. So that is why Wal-Mart has so many handicapped spaces. Not their fault.
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woodrunner
Aug. 23rd, 2002 08:54 am (UTC)

In order, I would pick:

1. Parking in a handicapped spot.... particularly if you're a physically-abled person. You can't tell me that you can't walk the 100 feet from the next available, non-handicapped parking spot to the store. I've known people to go to their doctors, have the doctors write a note that they qualify as handicapped, and these people get a blue placard so that they could park wherever they wanted and waltz to the store entrance. Give me a break.

2. Not tip waiters/waitresses... In Canada the wage isn't that bad but it is minimum wage and they supplement their income with tips. Most of them tend to be students or people who are decent, hard-working graduates who are looking for some experience to put on their resumes. I tip -- always according to how well they serve -- but I've never not tipped. These people have to deal with phenomenal assholes and they still have to make a living...

3. Running a website that sends SPAM email... This is VERY annoying and while it doesn't hurt me, it does fill up mailboxes and prevents legitimate mail from making it through... It's inconvenient, harassing, and unwarranted.

4. Talking on a cell phone while having dinner with someone... Well this isn't really applicable to me. I live in the Land of the Infinitely Polite. People I go for dinner with turn off their phones and pagers. When someone who was obviously a tourist answered his cell phone in a nice restaurant and ignored his companion for a good fifteen minutes, everyone was glaring at him. Finally, the hostess came up to him, waited until he noticed her, and very politely said, "Sir, you are ruining the dining experience of the entire restaurant. Please excuse yourself from the table and continue your conversation outside, or turn off your phone." Everyone cheered her.

5. Not rewinding VHS movies... I rent DVDs. But way back when I rented movies or take one of my own to watch, I get grumpy when I'm all ready for the movie with my popcorn and my blanket, and I have to wait for the damn thing to rewind.

6. Making a kid cry... I make kids cry all the time. Jesus, you'd think I was a monster or something.


point00
Aug. 23rd, 2002 10:40 am (UTC)
Spam is the only one of those options that can negatively affect my life, thus it is the most horrible crime on your list.
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spacefem
Aug. 23rd, 2002 11:20 am (UTC)
But see, the whole point is that you can't always think about your life, we all have to give to the good of the world sometimes. So would you rather get a SPAM e-mail or have some guy not tip a waitress? You'll delete the SPAM in .003 seconds without a thought, while that waitress who already doesn't make much money will have $10 less to feed her kids with. It's a world negative energy karma issue.
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prosewitch
Aug. 23rd, 2002 11:44 am (UTC)
I thought the spam site one ran a close second to making a kid cry. See, I'm the type of morbid person who writes a folklore paper on father-daughter incest fairytales, hence the first thing that came to mind when I read your poll was the cruelest thing possible. I've also seen moms hit their kids in public, and I think it's the most monstrous thing ever. I agree that tipping (in the U.S. at least) is a human decency issue as well, but not the sort of thing to scar you for life.
tiwonge
Aug. 23rd, 2002 12:27 pm (UTC)
At first I was going to pick the not making kids cry. But hey, in the long run, kids are remarkably resiliant, and they get over things pretty quickly.

I figured that the handicapped parking had a potential to be quite serious, although not tipping a waitress came a close second in terms of its impact. The rest are just annoyances, and not terribly serious.
feanelwa
Aug. 23rd, 2002 03:39 pm (UTC)
It depends what "things" are. Kids will get over finding out that there's no Santa Claus, or being slapped lightly in the street, but being KO'd is not-a-little harder. (Although technically i suppose that's not exactly making a kid cry as such. But it certainly makes the kid cry when it grows up.) I would say that kids are more resilient than it may first appear, but not remarkably so.
poopsmoothie
Aug. 23rd, 2002 12:37 pm (UTC)
I picked 'making little kids cry', because I interpreted it as 'mean-spiritedly making a kid cry'. Hell, I make my little brother cry all the time.

Next would be 'not tipping a waitress'. I used to BE a waitress, and I feel you.

Then 'parking in a handicapped spot'-- my mom's handicapped, and non-handicapped assholes are invariably parked in them-- and then 'running a spam site'. Not rewinding tapes is pretty obnoxious, but not THAT horrendous. Cell phone conversations during dinner are just annoying.
rawbery79
Aug. 23rd, 2002 03:45 pm (UTC)
I picked the kid crying for the same reason that everyone else who picked it did-I remembered being a kid and people made me cry, and I hated it.

But not tipping-that is bad.
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